*Disclosure: Names and faces have been changed to protect confidentiality 

Mike and Audrey 

YOUR IDENTITY ALIGNMENT SOLUTION™ 

At age 62, Mike told me about his childhood and how his dad always hustled to make ends meet. He saw his dad’s exhaustion and frustration. One day, his dad couldn’t take it anymore and just quit. Mike’s mom felt betrayed by her husband who was the primary provider. She excessively berated him in front of Mike as she wondered how they would make ends meet. 

Mike found his dad later that day curled up on the floor crying like a baby.  Seeing his father so broken taught him a lie that you must keep going even if you are unhappy and miserable. He absorbed this as the “right” thing to do and determined that he must make a lot of money if he was going to be respected. 

Mike and Audrey married in their late 20s. He didn’t know Audrey also carried baggage about money from her childhood. She grew up with very little, in an environment in which there was never enough. 

Audrey learned the lie that she was not worthy of having anything valuable. She was also the one in their relationship controlling the purse strings. Mike worked far too many hours to bring home the bacon.  Audrey kept spending it on things that fell apart and ended up in the trash. 

Their relationship was in trouble. Neither could see the root causes of their unhappiness. Once Mike and Audrey placed their trust in us, my team and I went to work to help them see the truth about themselves and what was possible for them. 

I am so grateful for that gift of trust. It takes a lot to open your financial kimono, let alone personal experiences that shape your reality. But it paid off for them in the end. We unearthed these scars in their history and implemented a plan that would relieve the strain on their finances and their relationship. 

With work, Audrey now believes she is valuable and can own items and experiences of value. Mike realized he didn’t have to work so much and is now able to be home more and enjoy time with Audrey, something he never believed possible. 

Today, Mike and Audrey have not only learned how to use their financial resources in alignment with who they really are, but they are excited about it. They have also referred their children to us to help them undo years of misinformation about what’s possible for them.